Not Saussure

April 28, 2007

A death in the family

Filed under: Uncategorized — notsaussure @ 9:09 pm

My mother died in her sleep at home and in her own bed. She was just shy of 92 years old. She died some time in the small hours of Friday 27. I’d spoken to her on the phone at about 10 on Thursday evening, when she was just getting ready to get into bed with her medicinal large scotch, and she sounded very well — well, as well as someone of that age who doesn’t enjoy particularly good health can sound — and happy. Her carer found her dead in bed on Friday morning. I saw the body before the undertakers removed it, and she really did look as if she were asleep.

While my mother certainly had all her marbles right to the end, she’d been increasingly frail in recent years, and she never fully recovered from the death of her much-loved younger sister almost exactly a year ago. She lost her sight shortly thereafter, and life really had become very burdensome for her. As she’d said in her speech at her 90th birthday party, ‘I don’t know why you’re all congratulating me on being 90. It’s no fun. I don’t recommend it at all, and I much preferred being 30.’

I hadn’t really intended to mention it here but, since it’s obviously a major issue in my life right now, it seems artificial not to. I’ll be away for a few days next week, making funeral arrangements and putting matters in train to wind up the estate.

I’ve turned off comments for this post because I don’t want people to feel they need to express their condolences. I’ll take them as read, and I thank you for them.


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